How do you practice honesty?

Today I am starting day one of being honest and being honest with kindness. For so long, I have prioritized kindness to the point where I have neglected honesty. As a result, the kindness I give can make the receiver feel as if it is artificial or even (I am ashamed to say this) manipulation, … Continue reading How do you practice honesty?

Asking for a friend: how do I start practicing greater self-respect?

What is self-respect? To me, self-respect is knowing what is best for yourself and acting on it despite what others' might feel or think about your actions. Right now, I don't have self-respect, and I'm not sure why or how I have lost it over the past couple of years. I used to be able … Continue reading Asking for a friend: how do I start practicing greater self-respect?

I’m going back to China for the first time since my adoption!

Well, tomorrow is the day. I'm going back to see my birth country tomorrow.... and I haven't packed. I've been feeling a mixed medley of nervous, anxious and excited. Nervous, because I won't know what to expect, and excited because of the energy of being in a new place. My parents and I have been … Continue reading I’m going back to China for the first time since my adoption!

I am Home: A Poem About Being Adopted

I moved to the states Because of state control Over a population Out of control But that’s not everything Everything could be Anything, Why was i given up? Up, they looked “This is the best for her” Her life will be better this way. Away we will give her, they said. And on July 5, … Continue reading I am Home: A Poem About Being Adopted

The first heartbreak is like a car crash: sudden and painful

This post was originally composed in February 2018.  Falling for someone and moving on for the first time is like taking on a highway the first time you get behind the wheel: you've only seen driving from the passenger's side, but now you're living in the driver's seat. Everything happens so fast. I found myself … Continue reading The first heartbreak is like a car crash: sudden and painful

I’m still learning to ride a bike and I’m going to fall again

To put things very bluntly: this summer was rough. I’m not going to say it’s “the worst summer,” although I keep finding myself going back to that. And I’m definitely not going to say it was the “best summer,” because it was far from it. I will say this: I learned more than I ever … Continue reading I’m still learning to ride a bike and I’m going to fall again